10 Best Adult Dating Hookup Sites 2020

We have had a look at 10 of the top adult dating sites and hookup sites available today. From sites that resemble porn hubs, to sites that are more like a naughtier version of Tinder. There are many, many adult dating sites and which one you choose to use is dependent, not only on the amount of members the site has, but also on what you’re looking for.

If you want more of a porn hub, a site like Adult FriendFinder is a much better bet. If you’re married and looking for an affair, then Ashley Madison is the go-to site you should have a look at. If, on the other hand, you want something Tinderesque that’s simple to use and allows you to find hookups on the go, then Mixxxer is an obvious choice. And, as always, as the majority of these sites offer you some form of free membership before you decide to fork out any cash for using them, it’s wise to have a look around before you decide which site is best for you.

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1. Adult Friend Finder

Adult Friend Finder is probably one of the world’s most famous X-rated dating sites. It’s definitely an adult dating site that’s been in the game for quite some time — since 1996 to be precise. And it’s amassed a shocking number of members — over 80M! How many of those are active is another story entirely though, but it has about 25M monthly visitors and ranks high among X rated sites, as well as being in the top 1000 sites overall on the net. One thing’s for sure: if you’re looking for a hookup or want an NSA relationship, this is a good place to go. So long as you can stomach the adult content, that is. Tinder may be known for being a hookup app, but it’s also a dating app. This, on the other hand, is an adult dating site, plain and simple.

Belonging to the FriendFinder network, it has some great features. In fact, among adult dating sites, AdultFriendFinder is probably top of the range when it comes to features. Here you can do anything from the basics, such as searching for and messaging other members, to watching porn, live streaming, uploading sexy photos and having virtual sex with other members using the Connexion tool. You can even buy sex toys that allows you to send each other real life stimulation. You press a button, they feel it.

AskMen gives AdultFriendFinder 7.7 out of 10 and DatingScout gives it 4 out of 5.

You also earn points for various activities on the site, which is transferred to credit that you can use to buy free membership months, get access to various features on the site (such as sexy live streams, or sex classes — yes they offer classes in sex!), or send others virtual gifts.

Any sexual orientation is welcome and many couples sign up to meet other couples, whether for virtual fun, swinging or sexual interaction of some other form. There are a lot of men using the site — about 80%. People use the site for different things though — a lot of members are likely looking at porn, live streams, etc. while others are there to find real-life hookups, or at the very least: online interaction with other members.

Not surprisingly, profile information is mainly about sexual preferences.

In short, if you’re looking for fun NSA dating and you don’t mind in your sexual activities displayed on the website, then this is a great site. It’s a site with an incredibly large membership base, active members and lots of different ways to interact with members, as well as simply sit back and enjoy the show without any interaction whatsoever.


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2. Ashley Madison

Their motto is:

Life is short. Have an affair.

And that sums up what Ashley Madison is all about. It’s about couples looking for extramarital activities…if they’re married that is. There are also plenty of singles looking for people otherwise engaged. Some people find the sneaking around sexy. Others just like the fact that for sure, they won’t need to get serious with anyone.

Polyamorous people also use this site. And if you’re polyamorous and only want to meet others who also are polyamorous, then you can use it that way. After all, not everyone is comfortable hooking up with someone who is cheating.

Obviously, the name of the game here is discretion. Most of the people looking for an affair aren’t in open relationships, though undoubtedly some are. Because of the nature of discretion, you have the option to mask or blur photos, as well as completely hide all, or some photos. That way, even if your husband or wife are checking the site out to see if you’re on there, they won’t be able to find you. At least not at first glance.

AskMen gives AshleyMadison 8 out of 10, while Dating Scout gives it 4.5 out of 5.

Ashley Madison ended up in the news many years ago as the site got hacked. Since then, like so many other sites, they’ve increased their security.

They have a feature that enables you to set your travel plans and meet with people in other cities, which is great if you’re looking for affairs, or flings, when out of town. You can, of course, use many other apps, including Tinder (if you pay a premium for looking for people out of town) but it may get boring swiping through masses of people, some who are looking for committed relationships.

According to DatingScout, the site has a lot more men than women and the majority of people are over 30, though there are plenty of younger members too. Maybe to attract more women, the site is entirely free for them.

You can use the site to call other members, which is great if you want to keep your number secret.

The site is easy to navigate and has a clean and appealing design. There is no “match” feature—rather you can search for members near you, members who were recently online, and other criteria.


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 3. BeNaughty

BeNaughty is a dating site for people looking for hookups and a wide variety of sexual encounters—such as threesomes, cyber sex and swinging. It acts much more like a dating site for those looking for sex, as opposed to an online porn hub. If AdultFriendFinder is too in your face, this is a better option.

AskMen gives BeNaughty 7 out of 10, while DatingScout gives it 3.5 out of 5.

BeNaughty is a site popular with the ladies—according to DatingScout 60% of members are female. Most members are under 45, but there are some in the older age brackets as well. The site has millions of members and about 120k active members per week, which is a good amount. You’ll find members all over the world.

Profiles and photos are checked by staff, which should lessen the amount of fake members. If you want, you can also decide to only interact with verified members, which certainly rules out any fakes.

BeNaughty offers a variety of forums and group chats where you can interact with others. You can also search for members using your preferences, or play a game of “cute or not.”


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 4. FetLife

The tagline reads:

Like Facebook, but run by kinksters like you and me. We think it is more fun that way. Don’t you?

Which makes it very clear what Fetlife is all about. The founder, John Kopanas, developed it for his own pleasure, so to speak.

According to the site itself it has over 8M members. It’s been around since 2008, so it’s hardly the new kid on the block either, so that goes to show it has managed to awe members for many years.

AskMen gives FetLife 9 out of 10 and DatingScout gives it 3 out of 5.

Being a social media site, as opposed to dating site, the focus is on various forms of interaction, such as groups and forums, as well as “becoming friends” and messaging. Some people have guidelines for who they are looking to connect with, so read their profile before messaging them, or you risk getting no replies, or very snarky ones.

To become a member you need to provide a phone number, as they will text you a verification link.

The site is free to join and most features don’t require any additional payment. However there are a few features where “donations” are welcome if you want to use them, as the site needs monetary support to keep operating.

Back in 2017, they updated their policies, so as to prevent fetishes that may be linked to criminal activity (such as kidnapping), or dangerous activity, from being discussed in public groups.


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 5. Alt

Alt is a dating site for anyone interested in various fetishes, kinks and BDSM. And there appears to be interest groups for just about anything, as well as videos and live streams—users have complained that the site has to many features. Not usually a complaint, but here you run the risk of being overwhelmed.

They have millions of members worldwide and there are around 80,000 weekly active members, which makes Alt a fairly large dating site, meaning it’s a good choice for finding a steamy fling!

AskMen gives Alt 7.8 out of 10, while DatingScout gives it 4 out of 5.

Signing up requires email verification, but while that may hinder bots, there have been complaints about fake profiles—particularly receiving messages from fake profiles if you do not have a paid membership. This is most likely because you have to pay to read messages, meaning the site uses it as an incentive for you to get a paid membership.

Even before you become a paid member you can search the membership database to find out if there are any members that interest you. You can also enjoy live-streaming from other members.

Once you do become a member you can enjoy perks such as video chatting with other members.

Profiles are very detailed (when filled out properly) and include both simple questions that require one-word answers and open ended questions that can take some time to answer.

The members are quite evenly spread out between the ages, but about 80% are male and 20% female.


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 6. Fuckbook

No, that’s not a typo. It’s not Facebook. This is Fuckbook. And as the name implies, it’s a different story entirely.

While you will find people trying to chat you up on Facebook if you interact with people outside your social circle, Fuckbook was designed for people chatting each other up. And while the site has received some negative member reviews (and they openly say there are fake, company created profiles on the site, which are marked with C), it has 29M members, so they must be doing something right.

According to DatingScout 33% of members are women, 67% men.

AskMen gives Fuckbook 7.6 out of 10, while DatingScout gives it 2.5 out of 5.

A free membership will allow you to browse the site, while a paid membership will allow you to interact with other members by messaging them. There’s a free icebreaker feature as well, that helps compose messages if you’re too shy (or pressed for time).

Clean design and easy navigation, makes the site easy to use. However, there are ads and the search function, if easy to use, is limited due to the fact that not too many fetishes are listed. Then again, this is a site for finding hookups, not a site for fetishes, per se. It’s for anyone wanting to fuck, basically.

There are a few added perks you won’t find on sites like Tinder, such as a webcam to view various streams and the ability to create a blog. And, unlike Tinder, you know people are using the site for NSA dating only.


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 7. Fling

Unlike many of the other casual dating sites we’ve mentioned here, Fling has a landing page that looks like it was designed at least five years ago. However, with millions of members, the design might not matter too much. And Fling has been around for about 20 years, so it’s certainly survived the test of time!

Like many other sites on this list, however, Fling offers sexual hookups of all varieties—ranging from vanilla-like flings, to couples’ swinging. There are also webcam girls to dazzle you, if that’s your thing.

AskMen gives Fling 7.4 out of 10, while DatingScout gives it 3 out of 5.

Most people using the site are between 25-55, with the majority being men (about 70% according to DatingScout). While an international dating site with members in several different countries, not all countries are supported by Fling — if yours is not, you’ll be redirected to, which is another site by Global Personals Media, which owns Fling.

Fling offers an option to verify your account, which is great if you want to look for other verified members and avoid any fake profiles that may be floating about. Another good thing for the sake of your safety and security, is that only paying members can view profile photos. That means that people who are just checking the site out won’t be able to see your photos.

Apart from searching for members, there’s an Instagram like feature that displays images that are “popular right now.” You can also see popular member videos and live cams.


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 8. UberHorny

This is certainly a site that lets you know what it’s all about as soon as you enter the landing page and are inundated with pictures (supposedly of members) in various nude poses.

Uberhorny is somewhat smaller than some of the other sites we’ve looked at — with about 2M members and, again, the large majority of members are male.

You can sign up as a single person, or couple, which holds true for a lot of adult dating sites. That enables you to look for swinging opportunities, or threesomes as a couple, as well as whatever floats your boat if you’re single.

DatingScout gives Uberhorny 3 out of 5.

To sign up you have to verify your email address and your profile will be reviewed by the dating site.

Apart from creating a profile, you can post photos, videos and status updates — much like a social media platform.

If you just want to check-out Uberhorny you can join for free, but while you can send an initial message and read messages sent to you, you can’t reply to any messages unless you pay. They offer 2-day and 7-day memberships to assess whether this NSA dating site is for you, but once you do decide to join and buy a 3-month membership, you get a guarantee that if you haven’t found a hookup in that time, you get another 3-months—on the house.


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 9. Local Hussies

Meet horny sluts and hookup with live girls on LocalHussies.

That’s what it says when you open a tab to have a look at this adult dating site (i.e. the name of the tab)… As NSA dating goes, this is certainly in the adult range.

LocalHussies is also a site with shockingly few online reviews. Our word of advice? Enter with caution. Chances are that live girls are their big sell, not real members who will meet you for a hookup.


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 10. Mixxxer

AskMen describes Mixxxer as a “mobile sex finder” which is both hilarious and accurate. In truth, many adult dating sites are just that, but put bluntly it does sound rather…out there. However, with three x’s in the name, what else could you expect? And it’s most likely sex you’re after using any of these sites, so why not be blunt about it?

The idea behind it, much like Tinder, is to find users in your local area, so it uses geolocation services (though it doesn’t reveal your exact location). The design is slick and modern and their copy fun: “Adults only. Clothing optional.”

As a free member you can upload a profile and swap photos, but you can’t chat using text.

Mixxxer offers a “shower room” protection service, meaning you can put it all out there (body pics) while protecting your identity. You can also use the site using your browser, thereby not having to install a mobile app, unless you want to.

Having been around since 2017, it’s a fairly new app and doesn’t have too many online reviews, but it certainly has a fair amount of members — 1.5M according to the site.

If you’re looking for Tinder, but with added privacy options and dick pics (and nudity in general), checking out Mixxxer is a very good idea.