Don’t tell me you are not familiar with the term “dating out of your league”. But, if you genuinely don’t get it, here is what it means. A person who is out of your league is the kind that we think is superior to us, hotter than us or look way more attractive than us.
According to people who wash in this faceless narrative, partners who match one another in physical attractiveness are more likely to stay together over the long term compared to those that are less similar in attractiveness.
But, there is another side to this coin too
Human nature is an elusive and highly strange thing. What I might find attractive might be very repulsive to other person. That is how humanity is.
So, forget about what movies, dating apps, magazines or model agencies or the media tries to feed our brains. Thing is: Desire is about people, it’s not about a league of people. And, there is nothing like a “ Premier League of People”.
Faceless societal conditioning
The society has tried to condition attraction in a very sickening way. It has succeeded in creating classes (leagues) within which dating and social interactions should revolve around. That’s why based on these laws, we people tend to shun “asymmetrical relationships’. Instead, they tend to initiate and try to maintain a relationship with a potential partner who matches their own level of physical attractiveness.
And, these believes are so entrenched in the society such that they are often, almost naturally, passed from generation to generation.
Break off from shackles of fear
Did you know you can comfortably date across different cultural and the so called leagues?
Yes, it possible to do without being labeled a misfit. But, how can you achieve this seemly impossible feat? Here are some tips to overcome this.
#1: Forget about pathetic leagues lie – It’s not about looks. There no reason a five can’t date a ten. Everyone has something unique to offer in every relationship. You can be of average looks, but you can probably make people laugh out their hearts. Go out and make the most out of it.
#2: Don’t swoon too soon – Yes, do not be too fast to show that you have noticed how wonderful they are. You lose your power and risk being sentenced to a ‘loser’ pit. Show them that you are not so much impressed and make them do the hard work too of impressing you.
#3: Go up a say a bold hello – High League people rarely get chatted up. Everyone feels insecure around them and so many people get scared of approaching them. Saying a bold hello and throwing in a some bit of fun will easily melt their hearts. And they will love you for your courage and positive attitude.
Remember to always be the best “you” possible. Make sure you always look well groomed. Wear your best clothes. And above be confident. You are the keeper of your own value. Not other people.